We have a lot of happy matches

Dating in late 40s

An unhappy pattern

For men, it's a case of you fulfil the criteria, let's buy the double duvet. The search is a kind of journey, and along the way you tend to learn a few things about yourself, and about the society we live in. It's an invisible band of women, they don't complain and they just get on with their lives, but actually it's tough for them.

Men in their mids slow

Single parents describe themselves as lonely, isolated, vulnerable and worthless. But life, friendship and love for the single woman in her mids and beyond has its own particular complications and sorrows.

Maybe you would prefer to hang out at cafes, museums, film festivals and art galleries. Its research shows that dating is, especially for divorced women, fraught with complication, anxiety and worry.

Men in their mids slow down, women are dynamic and full of energy. An unhappy pattern for plus women who want a new partner. And they will have got where they are in their careers by juggling far fewer balls on the way up. They have proved themselves, they are good at what they do and at the top of their game. We all have fulfilling careers, lots of good friends and interesting lives.

There is a new demographic of confident and experienced women, at their sexual peak as far as science is concerned, who would like to find a partner. At dinner parties divorced men will be placed next to her. We have a lot of happy matches. There is a real sense their world has shrunk. But nor does everyone feel that they will find love on the web.

Because quite often it really doesn't. Which is depressing if you're a woman of a certain age.

They might not know how to take care of themselves, and they might have complicated custody issues that keep them from travelling. And in theory, that is sound.

She will, unfortunately, become the recipient of sympathy. It's hard to meet people, especially in London. We need to match that energy.